Ding ding ding ding!
This is it. Hari's response to reading is exactly what I'm trying to see more of, to understand - what makes that "aha!" moment click?
It looks like this:
No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. YES!
The trick is in not giving up before you get to Yes - and also in asking questions so that you learn something new from each No. If I can upgrade my question-asking abilities so that I can, on average, go through fewer No's before hitting the Yes, then that is For Teh Winz.
You know one place I can learn how to do this? Grad school. Grad school! Grad school! Must finish application now.